The children are actually secret agents. They have been given a special mission by the universe, one that only they are truly capable of fulfilling. Why is it that one moment they can drive us up the wall, and the next moment they make us see them as a gift in our lives?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Children live in the present. They don\u2019t dwell on things that have already happened, and they\u2019re certainly not interested in the future. They want everything right now: treats, playtime, our attention. They want to stay a while longer, to carry on with whatever they\u2019re doing, so that you can watch, see and join in too. If we don\u2019t let them, they get upset, but usually within a few minutes they\u2019re laughing again. It\u2019s no coincidence that they switch so effortlessly from a loud tantrum to a light-hearted giggle, or vice versa. They aren\u2019t attached to or clinging to these feelings; they move on to the next moment, the next \u201eNOW\u201d.
How easily do we \u2013 as adults \u2013 shake off our bad moods?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not at all, really. We regard letting go of a bad mood as childish, immature behaviour. We cling to the past, dragging it behind us like a heavy iron chain. We hope that by keeping our past in mind, we can achieve what we truly desire in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We \u2013 as adults \u2013 no longer really live in the present. Whenever we encounter a situation in the here and now, our thoughts turn either to the past or to the future. It is mainly pain and regret that draw us back to the past. As for the future, we want to control it. We want to calculate as precisely as possible what, when and how we need to act so that our plans work out, and so that we can finally be content and happy in the future. We don\u2019t even realise that, in the meantime, we\u2019re missing out on everything. We just rush about blindly, like zombies. All the time. Yet, if we think about it more carefully, we know that everything that matters is happening right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Children know! It\u2019s no coincidence that they\u2019re the ones who can provoke us the most (whether positively or negatively). That\u2019s why the mission belongs to them. They try to wave their flags high, warning us, \u201eLOOK AT THIS, EVERYTHING YOU NEED IS RIGHT HERE!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201eBut what if\u2026?\u201d, \u201eWe need to think about the future!\u201d, \u201eWe can\u2019t just live from hand to mouth \u2013 we have a huge responsibility!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That\u2019s right! We need to think about the future, but we don\u2019t have to live there! Yes, we have a responsibility towards our children, which is precisely why we need to be aware of the message we\u2019re sending them through this world view. That\u2019s responsibility enough!
If we are constantly worrying about the past repeating itself and working to secure the future, whilst completely neglecting the present, our child will learn the following (among other things):<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yes, that\u2019s how we ended up like this too. We saw what we saw from our parents. We couldn\u2019t fulfil our mission; we fell short. We blended in and became just as much like zombies as they were. But our children still have a chance!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is no other living creature quite like this, capable of seeing so many wonders in nature\u2019s smallest details. A child can spend minutes marvelling at a withered leaf, chase dust bunnies for hours, repeat a joke all afternoon, and laugh at it over and over again. They know that true miracles happen in the present moment. To notice them, we have to be here with them. We can teach our children many things, but no one can teach us better than they can to ENJOY WHAT WE HAVE, WHEN WE HAVE IT. And more than anything, they want to experience these wonders with us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What worries from the past are you carrying with you? What vision of the future are you trying to hold on to?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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